Schooled by the Spirits: Another Lesson in Self-Trust

It finally happened.

I asked the spirits if a baby was in my client’s path and the answer was a very loud “No.”

Yikes. Was I about to crush her dreams? What if I was wrong?? 

My inner people-pleaser was shaking in her boots, but after 4+ years of intentionally developing my mediumship, I knew I had to do what I was hired to do: trust myself.

“So I heard No. How does that land for you?”

“It’s comforting,” she said.

To my surprise (and my ego’s relief), that was exactly why this client booked me. Not for a sugarcoated performance telling her what I thought she'd want to hear, but for confirmation of a truth she already held deep down.

"Trust yourself” is rarely as easy as it sounds.

Many of us were raised to believe we can’t be trusted—that someone else always knows better.

And my least favorite version of this advice is “trust your gut” when, for many people, the gut isn’t even where our intuitions speak from.

As a spirit doula, my role isn’t just to deliver channeled messages from your spirits. It’s also to create a space where you can hear your own inner voice and learn the language of your body. 

And in this session, I was reminded: learning the ways spirit speaks to me is one thing; trusting myself enough to deliver those messages is another.

I also learned an important lesson in checking my assumptions: not everyone who books a spirit baby reading does so because they want to meet one. 

Recently, I made a list of reasons people have booked spirit baby readings with me lately:

🐚 Unpartnered and wondering if motherhood is still in their path

🐚 Trying to conceive for a while & losing faith

🐚 Pregnant and feeling disconnected from their baby

🐚 Seeking closure around a past abortion

🐚 Conflicted and/or ashamed about still wanting a child in this social climate

🐚 Queer people who see parenting in their path, but unsure how due to not wanting to engage in the fertility & adoption industries

And now I can add one more reason to the list:

🐚 Doesn’t actually want children, but wants to hear it from a spirit medium so they can finally give themselves permission to be honest with their truth

And the truth I got to witness was someone already connected to her desires and spirits; she just needed someone who had practiced trusting their own channel to affirm it.

And as it turns out, admitting what you already know deep down can be deeply and maybe even unexpectedly comforting.